The Value of a Mum


Mums are overworked and under-appreciated, but nobody is listening. Being a Mum is perhaps one of the most thankless jobs in the entire world. No one ever says thanks. No one ever says ‘good job today.’ There are no appraisals, promotions, or pay rises. It’s relentless, often boring ‘work.’ And yes, it IS work! 

But we’re not allowed to call it work are we? We’re supposed to be smiling as we sit cross-legged on the floor playing educational games with our little ones, with a roast dinner cooking in the oven. We dare not complain. We dare not say that it’s bloody hard, or that we’re exhausted, or admit that we shout and lose our temper sometimes. We dare not say that some days we hate being a Mum……because this is what’s supposed to come naturally, this was our choice so we’re supposed to just get on with it without uttering a word. 

Well bollocks to that. 

People choose to become lawyers and dentists and accountants and they’re allowed to complain and have bad days and still be afforded high praise and gratitude by clients, bosses, friends. Is it too much for me to ask to feel valued as well? 

Can we please start giving Mums a bit of credit? We’re raising the future and we are instilling morals and attitudes into the society of the future. What a responsibility. What an important job.

So Mums out there, I want to say a massive ‘good job’ to every single one of you. 

Good job for keeping calm that time you found pee all over the living room carpet. 

Good job for saying sorry that time you lost your temper when you found pee all over the living room carpet.

Good job for dealing with the kids all day on your own and still managing to get dinner on the table.

Good job for getting everyone dressed in the mornings and out to school on time.

Good job for all the times you’ve answered 101 demands from the kids at the expense of your own lunch.

Good job for all the times you cleaned up vomit.

Good job for all the times you’ve scrubbed poo off the toilet.

Good job for all the times you were down on your knees picking up endless peas/Lego/Coco Pops.

Good job for cleaning all those little teeth every single morning and evening when they just won’t keep still.

Good job for every wriggly arm or leg you’ve put into pyjamas at the end of a long and trying day.

Good job for all the times you held a sick or restless baby at the expense of your own night’s sleep.

Good job for every tantrum you’ve dealt with, at home, at the shops, with no one there to help.

Good job for that day you gave the kids cake for breakfast, they got fed didn’t they?

Good job for not saying a word when someone commented on how tired your husband must be after his working week and you felt like crying thinking about how hard you work and how tired you are. 

Good job for being sat there in the shadows while your child shone on a stage or a sports field and nobody knew the hours you spent willing them on, being there when they felt like giving up. 

Good job for putting yourself in the shadows time after time after time.

Good job for not giving up, even on the days when you felt like giving up.

Good job Mummy.




  1. 21st July 2017 / 5:23 am

    I love my mom. I need to go text her that right now. #BlogCrush

  2. 22nd July 2017 / 7:44 am

    This is so true! Out all all of the jobs I’ve had over the years, being a parent is by far the toughest and most under appreciated! Thanks so much for sharing another fab post with #Blogstravaganza xx

  3. 23rd July 2017 / 10:32 am

    You can not imagine how a mum will feel when someone tells her good job, we’re so under appreciated at times #Blogstravaganza

  4. 23rd July 2017 / 5:17 pm

    Every word is so very true. My Mrs., she is the SAHM and I often try to say ‘great job’ often, because it is hard! I see it on her face, in her mannerisms, and after a long crappy day of mine! This rearing life thing, it’s hard work. So hear this from me, as I have heard from you, GREAT JOB MOMMA! <3 #BlogCrush xoxo

    • 23rd July 2017 / 9:05 pm

      Thank you so much Lisa! It’s amazing that you can appreciate your other half and what she does, I think that’s all most mums want, just to feel appreciated! Thanks for taking the time to comment!

  5. 23rd July 2017 / 8:16 pm

    Yep totally agree with all this. I’ve done all of these and earned the badges. Massive respect to anyone who spends their days (and nights) looking after their children. So all I have to add is Good Job Daddy as well!

    • 23rd July 2017 / 9:01 pm

      I’m sorry Adrian, I definitely should have acknowledged dads too in this. I know there are loads of amazing SAHDs who go unappreciated and under-valued in the same way. Massive good job to you and all the dads out there doing this too! Thanks for your comment!

  6. 25th July 2017 / 7:12 pm

    Love, love, LOVE this post! And yes, I have to admit that I actually got a bit emotional reading it too! Haha. It’s so nice to have someone validate what you do and notice the little things. A well-deserved #blogcrush feature! I would’ve chosen you too! #blogcrush

  7. 25th July 2017 / 10:44 pm

    I never appreciated my Mum properly until I became one… now I am completely in awe of her for raising 3 children and still doing all the other stuff that she used to do… and yes, thank you for the praise! 🙂

    • 26th July 2017 / 8:25 pm

      I know what you mean – it’s impossible to realise the work a mum does until you become one yourself! Thank you for your comment!

  8. 11th August 2017 / 9:29 am

    so well said, I do often feel like I am judged as not doing enough being home with our kids I feel like stay at home mums can be so harshly judged, but then again so are working mums, we can’t win sometimes. But this post is brilliant, I agree a Well Done Mummy! #mainylovessummer

  9. 11th August 2017 / 10:48 am

    Love this! Amazing. WE are amazing! The and for the boost! #mainylovessummer

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  10. 11th August 2017 / 3:13 pm

    Aw this is so lovely! Motherhood is definitely an underappreciated career! x

  11. 11th August 2017 / 7:43 pm

    I love this! Very well said!!!!
    We are all doing a good job and deserve some credit! #mainylovessummer

  12. 12th August 2017 / 3:05 pm

    I agree, very well said and its good to see a post that lists some of those ‘added extras’ we do, cleaning poo off the seat is something we just do and dont bat an eyelid, never in a million years did I think that would come so naturally to me!;)
    Thanks for linking up to the summer linky,

  13. 12th August 2017 / 7:55 pm

    Lovely post! I think we forget about mums sometimes! #mainylovessummer

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